Do you feel like you are struggling in your relationship – to feel heard, or perhaps you are tip-toe-ing around them, afraid to upset the apple cart? Or perhaps you are sneaking around, doing what you need to do to feel safe, aware that making any mention of what you are doing will result in an explosion of temper?</span?

Or perhaps you are newly single and want to move on to a new relationship and want to ensure old patterns are a thing of the past.

Or maybe you’ve just had a new baby and you are unprepared for how this has affected / changed the relationship?

People often feel the need to see someone because basic needs aren’t being met, or perhaps you’ve been repeating a particular relationship pattern for years. You may find that traditional therapy hasn’t worked previously and you need something of a more interventionist nature from someone who’s been where you are.

Triggers to seek therapeutic intervention can be anything from a family event, or a significant event such as bereavement of a close family member, an affair or breakdown of the relationship where the other person has walked out, maybe leaving you for someone else.

Perhaps you’re experiencing dissatisfaction, lies, cover up. Or maybe you want *him* to change, or if only *she* would understand you, then all will be well.

You’ve landed here for a reason.

Often in relationships we will project how we feel onto the other person, expecting them to understand exactly where we are with them, but the fact is that they are not us and they cannot read our minds.

See this video clip talking about “Genuine Love”.

It’s possible to get completely bogged down and then confused as to why you don’t feel happy, which is why a fresh perspective outside of your relationship has incredible value. Someone who is on your “relationship’s side” yet maintains non-judgemental support.

Download this worksheet to see if you are enacting any of these “four horsemen” (coined by John Gottman).

Or do you believe you are living with someone who is on the Autistic Spectrum Disorder? See here for an excellent article written by Maxine Aston.

Book an appointment with Malmesbury Therapeutic Coaching using SetMore